So the blog post that has gotten the most hits here is the one about how I was almost outed by a netflix friend invite. It was about a friend I wasn't ready to come out to who asked to be my netflix friend. I didn't know then you don't have to share all the movies you watch with a friend.
This is the rest of the story. Friday night while out for appetizers and drinks I outed myself. I was trying to encourage her to do online dating. To which she started sortof egging me on to share why I thought it was a good thing, and asking about any "he's or him's". So I said after a accidentally dramatic pause. "I'm gay."
She responded pretty well. Said she wasn't super shocked and asked if she was the last to know. I said, "pretty much". I explained how when I told her about cutting her response was painful silence in response, so I felt afraid to ever share again. She apologized for her silence, saying she didn't know what to say. I told her I know the timing was awkward, but when someone shares something that huge even if you just say "I don't know what to say or ask, but I care." Do it! Silence does NOT feel good. She was not silent in response to my sharing this time. She even checked in to see if she had responded alright. I said she did. And then we started tracing back all the moments where I sidestepped the conversation of me being gay.
I must say I also found out I have amazingly stunning friends! She is good friends with people who know I am gay and not one of them outed me to her, and it's been almost a year since other people knew. :)
While driving home I said "Well, now I can be your netflix friend." To which she exclaimed "That's why you wouldn't be my netflix friend!" with quite a lot of strength.