Sometimes it's hard for me to say what I want and need. I know what I want, but I fear that naming will cost me a friendship.
This morning I sent an email to "y" articulating what I need and/or can handle now. Basically what I am not doing. It was hard for some reason. I want to please people and it's not really going to be what she wants.
Anyway, for now I've articulated: No more overnights. I don't want to meet or hang out with the people she is dating. And I'm not going to throw out my manual until I'm in a monogamous committed dating relationship.