- she hinted at getting me fired because I am gay. Talking about how i am a leader and her sense of what a leader is, means I should not be gay. I heard her and then explained that it's illegal for me to be fired because of my orientation.
- she said she has not wanted to work with me and my department on a project because I am gay. I told her this is inappropriate. This does not get in the way of my job and should not get in the way of our work together.
- she thinks I intentionally choose this lifestyle.
- she said she doesn't know if she would come to my wedding because she doesn't know what she would tell her son. Implying it would taint him.
I felt surprisingly calm during it, but sad and angry towards the end and afterwords. Somehow I was able to listen and speak up for myself. I am very proud of myself for confronting her on how her personal views cannot work. It is entirely inappropriate. We think differently, but it should not impact my job or her decision to work with us.
I asked her, and she won't read or learn more about this issue and won't talk to anyone who doesn't think like she does, so I sent her to l.o. to chat (not my lo another co-worker). I am hoping L.O. would at least talk a bit of sense to her regarding the fact that we can agree to disagree, but I am still a valued employee no matter my orientation.
Today I feel like this friendship is done, I felt different yesterday and will probably feel different tomorrow. I'm just a bit of a roller coaster.