So my circle of lesbians I've met is growing slowly which is great. But I am noticing a theme. This is what I've learned. The ones I know from my new church have stayed in the church because it's gay friendly and accepting. Still some of them have stories of having left the church for years and they only came back when they found this one.
All the rest of the women I've met or talked to, which is about seven women as of this week, were church going catholics or christians of some stripe and they all left the church when they were rejected by it or when they heard all they ways they weren't accepted or a part of it. Each story is rather complicated but there is pain throughout.
What do I do with these stories? I don't think the church really wants to drive people out of the church who want to seek God. But rejection is painful and the human response is to protect yourself and your heart. I also don't think pastors and church leaders who preach against homosexuality realize the ramifications of it. This blogger Anj tells the story of how last week she her and her girlfriend were pulled into the overflow room for a "talk" when she was caught holding hands with her girlfriend during church. [The story] Sounds like she might be staying anyway. But still if you were her would you?
This makes me really sad. And I guess that's why it's so important for me to try and stay and go to this accepting church these days. O and by accepting, I mean would welcome and let me have communion when I am dating a woman or married to one, just like they would if someone was dating a man or married to one.