- Details (where was I, why, what happened...)
- Use of feeling words (shame, sad, angry joy....)
- Tell what it felt like in my body (eg. My chest felt tight and it was hard to breath, my legs felt like jello)
- Tell what I did and/or what I wish I would have done to get back to a state or rest of emotional equilibrium. (eg. What I wish I would have done was to call someone to remind me who I was).
- If possible eye contact
Stories can lead us emotionally. Even though I have put off writing some mini-stories here I've been telling them verbally with ever greater coherence. In fact I'm kind of proud of how fully I was able to articulate my story when I came out to my long-time friend em recently. It seemed to help her to hear the fullness of my journey.
And I think this is why I appreciate books like Mel White's Stranger at the Gate, and Waiting for the Call by Jacqueline Taylor. They have some aspects of this coherence.