tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2581216570132977200.post5663322586882335460..comments2023-09-10T07:53:34.679-07:00Comments on titration: That blasted study everyone is talking about!titrationhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03836673609264206765noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2581216570132977200.post-88496231277976491852007-10-04T17:23:00.000-07:002007-10-04T17:23:00.000-07:00liadan TOTALLY. Your line "if only to prove to the...liadan TOTALLY. Your line "if only to prove to themselves as much as to the people around them that being gay isn't their "fault" and thus something they don't have to feel guilty and ashamed about." feels exactly like me! <BR/><BR/>Thanks for your comment. :)mendacitytitrationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03836673609264206765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2581216570132977200.post-70077023339978860272007-10-04T17:20:00.000-07:002007-10-04T17:20:00.000-07:00I think for some people, coming from a fundamental...I think for some people, coming from a fundamentalist family or background that posits gayness as a choice one makes rather than a way one is, they may need the option of trying (and most likely failing) to change, if only to prove to themselves as much as to the people around them that being gay isn't their "fault" and thus something they don't have to feel guilty and ashamed about. I know that coming from an evangelical environment, even with the non-conformist, rabble-rousing debating personality I have, I made my own "amateur" attempts to Not Be Gay before eventually figuring out that not only was nothing changing, nothing needed to because you don't have to fix what ain't broken.<BR/><BR/>Of course, the flip side of that is the people who will inevitably tell them that their failure to change (or stay happily celibate) is still their fault for not being Christian / Godly / faithful / trusting / etc. enough. Hopefully most people get past the carrot-and-stick game. Certainly some people never do.Liadanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00553926314903191298noreply@blogger.com