tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2581216570132977200.post4436842231542219033..comments2023-09-10T07:53:34.679-07:00Comments on titration: A letter to tell my family I'm gaytitrationhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03836673609264206765noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2581216570132977200.post-82040907367357215842007-09-16T10:46:00.000-07:002007-09-16T10:46:00.000-07:00my_monkeyGrl sweetheart. That's tough! One of the ...my_monkeyGrl sweetheart. That's tough! One of the best websites of advice I read was http://titration.blogspot.com/2007/09/stages-parents-go-through.html<BR/><BR/>I am older than a lot of people I know who have told their parents and part of the reason why is that I wanted to be sure for myself and I wanted to be in a healthy place emotionally so I could handle it. <BR/><BR/>Coming out is not easy that's for sure! I started by telling friends who love me so I had support. Then I told my brother and finally my parents. But having support (I think in addition to your girlfriend) can be really important. <BR/><BR/>Don't tell them unless you are sure you are ready. And no one can tell you if you are ready besides you. <BR/><BR/>I'd also recommend knowing if you can write them or talk to them in person. I wrote a letter because I knew that would allow them to process things at their own pace and that they would hear things from me that they might not if I said it verbally. Things like, YOU were good parents. THIS isn't because of you or because of anything that happened to me! <BR/><BR/>I send warm hearted vibes your way!titrationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03836673609264206765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2581216570132977200.post-16955057153152062862007-09-15T20:40:00.000-07:002007-09-15T20:40:00.000-07:00i havent told my family about my sexuallity. I am ...i havent told my family about my sexuallity. I am really scared that my family might never talk to me again. We have gone through hard times already and havnt talked to months even a couple years. I just dont want to loose my family or my amazing girlfriend. got any ideas i need helpmy_monkeyGrlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12995381947521574658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2581216570132977200.post-51304465364918246072007-08-05T10:55:00.000-07:002007-08-05T10:55:00.000-07:00eliane, m, zuzu, liadan... thanks! And liadian dud...eliane, m, zuzu, liadan... thanks! And liadian dude that's tough. I don't think my brother will do that....titrationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03836673609264206765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2581216570132977200.post-53981615120549259982007-08-04T21:42:00.000-07:002007-08-04T21:42:00.000-07:00Good luck with your response. I wish I'd had the g...Good luck with your response. I wish I'd had the good luck to be able to send a letter (I was unceremoniously outed by my sister. Twice).Liadanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00553926314903191298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2581216570132977200.post-4162275088773469442007-08-04T13:56:00.000-07:002007-08-04T13:56:00.000-07:00You are top in my prayers.You are top in my prayers.Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06174407315407721225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2581216570132977200.post-14938443329671647782007-08-03T19:45:00.000-07:002007-08-03T19:45:00.000-07:00It's perfect, and so are you. Much love to you. -...It's perfect, and so are you. Much love to you. - ZuzuZuzuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00119688848998849510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2581216570132977200.post-75900135401744178922007-08-03T16:37:00.000-07:002007-08-03T16:37:00.000-07:00I think it's a great letter - it shows a ton of co...I think it's a great letter - it shows a ton of compassion for their wellbeing. Big hugs to you for your courage and grace...and just cuz you're great.ElaineLeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07128973530074400804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2581216570132977200.post-63693137638526466932007-08-03T14:52:00.000-07:002007-08-03T14:52:00.000-07:00Hey there Sarah, Deb, tc, and anonymous...Thanks s...Hey there Sarah, Deb, tc, and anonymous...<BR/><BR/>Thanks so much for your comments and the cheerleader and the book recommendation. :)titrationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03836673609264206765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2581216570132977200.post-34446124951507199382007-08-03T14:46:00.000-07:002007-08-03T14:46:00.000-07:00I would recommend the book by Chad Thompson, Lovin...I would recommend the book by Chad Thompson, Loving Homosexuals As Jesus Would.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2581216570132977200.post-598855412100835422007-08-03T11:18:00.000-07:002007-08-03T11:18:00.000-07:00I don't have anything profound to say, but just wa...I don't have anything profound to say, but just wanted to thank you for being so openly vulnerable with your posts (albeit anonymously :) ). This is so huge, and I'm glad you have a venue for sharing in this way!<BR/><BR/>You are the bomb. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise<BR/><BR/>tcAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2581216570132977200.post-8615079207457650322007-08-03T10:30:00.000-07:002007-08-03T10:30:00.000-07:00Blessings on your letter! I think it sounds great,...Blessings on your letter! I think it sounds great, girl.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16495420255101853794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2581216570132977200.post-16428284762156400552007-08-03T09:17:00.000-07:002007-08-03T09:17:00.000-07:00Brilliantly done. You gave them resources beyond j...Brilliantly done. You gave them resources beyond just telling them about your lifestyle, and then leaving them without anything to cling on. Those websites and book references was a brilliant idea and so loving of you to even provide that. <BR/><BR/>I applaud you! I hope this works out!Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14986475569600734742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2581216570132977200.post-91635555363898236352007-08-03T08:48:00.000-07:002007-08-03T08:48:00.000-07:00mvl - thank you, for your encouragement and commen...mvl - thank you, for your encouragement and comments. The reading a book together is an interesting idea!titrationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03836673609264206765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2581216570132977200.post-47933402520055446582007-08-03T08:34:00.000-07:002007-08-03T08:34:00.000-07:00i hope your letter is well-received and if anythin...i hope your letter is well-received and if anything, that it promotes dialogue and not a closed-off response. i'm sure it will take your parents some time to process that but it's clear that you acknowledge and understand that, which is good. i'd be careful not to sound too apologetic about providing them resources ("If any of this helps keep it, if it doesn’t throw it out."). perhaps they may not find the resources to be of interest or help at the very beginning, but i don't think they should disregard the suggestion altogether and i bet you don't truly think they should either - but that's just my own suggestion - take it or throw it out. ;) i think the resources are actually a really helpful thing to include. perhaps since you might want to include the ones you've read? just a thought since you don't know what may be written in some...or perhaps you and your parents can work through a book simultaneously at some point and talk your way through it. no matter what, we're praying for you and hope you know that you are cared for throughout this journey. -mvlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2581216570132977200.post-35960962502236971382007-08-03T08:15:00.000-07:002007-08-03T08:15:00.000-07:00L - Thank you so much for your visit and encourage...L - Thank you so much for your visit and encouragement! I very much appreciate it. And the more I've been thinking about it and talking to other more extended members of my family the more I think that they will do better than I think at hearing this...titrationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03836673609264206765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2581216570132977200.post-18619610303343486402007-08-03T08:01:00.000-07:002007-08-03T08:01:00.000-07:00Thissounds good. I can tell you have a good relati...Thissounds good. I can tell you have a good relationship with them because of the tone and that you assmume they will try to understand. My family would never DO anything to try to understand me. I think you will be suprised how well it goes. Most parents want to love and understand their children.<BR/>good luck<BR/>LoriLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07956047789423549096noreply@blogger.com